Hello , my name is Alex…I could talk what generally dating represents , but I chouse not to , cause in this particular faze I’d like to underline some of the issues that bother me , and not only me , but many people…
DATING IS A INTERVIEW…yes , that’s what I think , it’s the most awkward and really stressed out interview. You don’t know if what you are saying is good with the other person , you are never to funny cause the other person might think you’re a buffoon or there is the possibility of trying to be funny and not working.
You go into a bar , you don’t know her/his believes…does this person like people whom smoke , or drink beer , or am I to way off ordering wine , should I tip , how much should I tip …so on and so on….
SMALL TALK : It’s usually the greatest discussion opener , from things like : “Do you like to dance?” , “what do you study?” , “do you love Italian food?” , “In which country would you live if you could move away to?” , but even so if you are shy or the other is shy , the discussion will burnout quickly .The small talk helps but what happens if you like a girl/boy you’ve seen at a party and a friend of yours who knows her/him wants to introduce you to her/him…the craziest thing you can say is : “hello , my name is….. I think your presents lights up the room” There is a 50% chance to have a positive response to that , and eventually hook up after for a drink. Or rejecting you nicely and harsh , the person can say thank you and carry on with what she\he was doing….
AFTER THE FIRST DATE…the horror….this stage comes like a enigma for all , should or shouldn’t we kiss , but the answer being really simple…cause you already know how the date went , but what if she tests you and invites you up for a coffee , or what if he invites you up for a coffee ?.......do you say u got lots of work tomorrow….or you go with the flow ?
MORE ON NEXT POST !
DATING IS A INTERVIEW…yes , that’s what I think , it’s the most awkward and really stressed out interview. You don’t know if what you are saying is good with the other person , you are never to funny cause the other person might think you’re a buffoon or there is the possibility of trying to be funny and not working.
You go into a bar , you don’t know her/his believes…does this person like people whom smoke , or drink beer , or am I to way off ordering wine , should I tip , how much should I tip …so on and so on….
SMALL TALK : It’s usually the greatest discussion opener , from things like : “Do you like to dance?” , “what do you study?” , “do you love Italian food?” , “In which country would you live if you could move away to?” , but even so if you are shy or the other is shy , the discussion will burnout quickly .The small talk helps but what happens if you like a girl/boy you’ve seen at a party and a friend of yours who knows her/him wants to introduce you to her/him…the craziest thing you can say is : “hello , my name is….. I think your presents lights up the room” There is a 50% chance to have a positive response to that , and eventually hook up after for a drink. Or rejecting you nicely and harsh , the person can say thank you and carry on with what she\he was doing….
AFTER THE FIRST DATE…the horror….this stage comes like a enigma for all , should or shouldn’t we kiss , but the answer being really simple…cause you already know how the date went , but what if she tests you and invites you up for a coffee , or what if he invites you up for a coffee ?.......do you say u got lots of work tomorrow….or you go with the flow ?
MORE ON NEXT POST !
keep in mind...life is too short, waaaaay too short to worry about thing like that...always go with the flow and see what happens...and if smth goes wrong....don't worry, u will get a second chance, either with the same person or with someone else..."if life gives u lemons, u should make lemonade"
ReplyDelete